How to find the ‘blind spots’ that are holding you back in life.
Do you remember back to when you were learning to drive a car and the instructor (or your parent) kept telling you to remember to look in your blind spot. Clearly the message took a while to get through to me as I had a few close calls with other cars, poles and even a 6 foot ditch!
Blind spots aren’t only important when it comes to driving. In fact, blind spots are often the biggest block that prevent us from feeling the way we want to and achieving the goals we set.
One of my main aims as a Performance Coach is to help women identify what their blind spots are when it comes to their wellbeing because this ultimately affects their ability to perform the way they want.
So my dad was doing me a favour banging on about the blind spot because it soon turned into an automatic habit…and far less poles were hit as a result!
What this means in terms of wellbeing and performance is that once you create a habit of noticing how you are feeling, your blind spots become so much more obvious. With awareness comes the ability to take control and change what you don’t like or what isn’t working for you.
Many people call this ‘being mindful’ – taking the time to check in and notice how you feel, what you feel and how you are showing up in the world (crazy, busy and rushed, verses calm, considered and responsive).
The trick is to notice whats happening and then be open to looking at WHY it’s happening from a slightly different angle.
For example, if you notice that you are constantly feeling tired, you might first look to a lack of sleep as the problem. However the actual blind spot might be that you are not allowing yourself time in your week to do something that is just for you.
Continually giving to others depletes your energy just as much as a lack of sleep does. So even if you get into a good sleep routine and manage to get the 7-9 hours we all need to operate at 100%, you may still be feeling ‘tired’…yet this tiredness is emotional not physical.
Here are a few other blind spots that you may not have considered yet…
- Constant bloating in your stomach:
You may think it’s the type of food you ate, but it could actually be the WAY you ate the food. Eating in a rush and without allowing it to digest fully can cause your stomach to bloat. But simply taking 4-6 deep breaths in before you start to eat and chewing a little slower can fix bloating in a big way.
- Tired muscles and stiff joints:
You may think this is due to vigorous exercise, but it could also be a build up of stress within the body that needs a more flowing and gentle approach, like yoga, to fix.
- Trouble concentrating or remembering things:
You could also put that down to a lack of sleep, but it could also be about you saying yes to too many requests which results in a brain overload – our minds can only remember 5-7 things at a time.
The easiest fix here is to write a list and circle the three most important things you know need to be done…anything else is a bonus. You could also say no more to people as well (wink wink).
- A short temper:
Whilst PMS can be a cause of this (especially if you have a really low level of progesterone which can create anxiety-like feelings), a short temper can also result from emotions like not feeling heard, resentment or feeling unappreciated.
Often this leads to more wine and chocolate being consumed than you may really benefit from! The best way to fix this is to face the emotion you are feeling instead of masking it with things that make you feel good (like alcohol and chocolate).
You can do this with a coach, a friend, or even simply by writing down what it is you are feeling. I also suggest you do something that makes YOU feel special…after all, we can’t control what others think, feel and say but we can influence how we feel about ourselves and how we treat ourselves.
- Energy highs and lows:
You might instantly think food causes this because if you eat something high in sugar you get a rush of energy, followed shortly afterwards by a crash. Whilst this is true, your energy roller coaster ride could also be caused by caffeine, especially if you didn’t get a great night sleep or woke really early.
Caffeine can benefit you because it increases alertness and enhances fat burning. However it does also stimulate your cortisol levels and hence adrenal glands. So if you are sleep deprived (this is more common than you think), and you rely on caffeine to get you going in the morning, you may find that between 11am – 3pm you come crashing down.
For the record, it isn’t a great idea to reach for more caffeine here because it will affect your ability to sleep that night…and hence a vicious cycle is created.
Try looking firstly at how well you are sleeping. Lavender on the pillow and even a natural sleep supplement like valerian or hops can help (personally I use an incredible product that supports adrenals called Cort RX). A morning walk can also help boost your energy in a natural way as can 10-20 minutes of meditation.
So if you notice yourself feeling tired, bloated, stiff, cranky, on an energy roller coaster, or something else, then hit pause and move past the ‘obvious answer’ – look a little deeper.
You may be surprised to find a blind spot you didn’t expect. With that information you are back in the drivers seat and can then take control of your health and happiness in a more positive way.
If you want some help uncovering your blind spots and coming up with practical solutions to help you feel and perform the way you want, shoot me an email at email@example.com and we can have a 20 minute Skype or phone chat. Available for the first 10 women to connect.
Lisa Mills xx